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Couples Counselor/Therapist Fred Talisman provides Couples counseling/therapy in-person for Couples of the South Bay, Westside, Southern & Nationwide including: Long Beach, Manhattan Beach, Hermosa Beach, Redondo Beach, Palos Verdes Peninsula, Torrance, El Segundo, Westchester, Rancho Palos Verdes, Palos Verdes Estates, San Pedro, Gardena, Harbor city, Hawthorne, Lawndale, Lomita, Palos Verdes, Rolling Hills, Rolling Hills Estates, Malibu, Pacific Palisades, Santa Monica, Venice, Marina del Rey, Playa del Rey, El Porto, Bevery Hills, West Los angeles, Westwood, Century City, Topanga, Pacific Highlands, Brentwood, Racho Park, Culver City, Mar vista, Beverly Glen, Ocean park, Bel Air, Bel Air estates, Trousdale estates, West Hollywood, Cheviot Hills, Palms, Fox Hills, So Cal & more...

If your partner wants to leave you or if you’re considering leaving your partner...

I Can Help You to Save Your Relationship and Your Family, Even if You Fear it’s Too Late, and Even if You’re the Only One Who Wants to Save It

Dear Friend,

For 32 years I’ve been helping couples to save their relationship and their families and to make their relationship work and I can probably do the same thing for you.

You’re welcome to call me right now at 310 305-7488 (westside), 310 374-0372 (south bay) or toll free at 800 887-6464. I can usually be reached from 7am-10 pm PST. I’m glad to spend some time talking to you at no charge and to tell you weather or not I think I’m the best one to help you to save your relationship and what it would take to do that.

Or, if you want more information of how I work and what it takes to successfully save your relationship, read on...

Fred Talisman MFT
Licensed Couples, Marriage, &
Family Therapist
Saving Relationships
for Over 30 Years
310 305-7488

Is Your Relationship Beyond Saving?

The answer may surprise you… Most relationships end unnecessarily and could have been saved. No, you did not read incorrectly. Most relationships end unnecessarily and the breakup could have been prevented.

I’ve found this to be true even if there has been cheating in the relationship and even if one partner says “I’m no longer in love with you.

For over 30 years I‘ve specialized in saving relationships that were on the verge of ending even when only one person still wanted the relationship to work and even when they had no hope that it could be saved.

I have a passion for saving relationships. I believe in Love AND, I am also grounded, pragmatic and result oriented in my approach.

It is my passion to save dying romantic relationships and to keep those relationships thriving for a lifetime together.

I am happy to directly help you to stop your breakup. If you would like to know if I can help you to save your relationship, You’re welcome to call me right now at 310 305-7488, 310 374-0372, or 800 887-6464. I’m glad to spend some time talking to you at no charge and to tell you weather or not I think I’m the best one to help you to save your relationship and what it will take to do that.

When Is It Too Late For A Relationship To Be Saved?

When YOU give up or throw in the towel.

You’ve probably already tried everything you know. It’s not working, is it?

What you don’t yet know is that if can be saved with my professional help.

You’re welcome to call me right now at 310 305-7488, 310 374-0372, or 800 887-6464. I’m glad to spend some time talking to you at no charge and to tell you weather or not I think I’m the best one to help you to save your relationship and what it will take to do that.

If Your Partner Wants to Leave You, Finding And Going To Couple Counseling Is Usually A Critical Element To Convince Your Partner To Give You a Last Chance

Usually, the person that has initiated the breakup has been trying to get their partner to go to couples counseling with them. They have been put off or flatly told no. I’ve worked with some couples where the person that wants to end the relationship had been rejected by their partner for weeks, months and even years, in their efforts to get them into couple counseling.

Initiating finding and going to a couple counselor, as soon as possible, demonstrates your willingness to be responsive to what your partner has wanted.

…It can also help your partner to get past one of their biggest objections to giving you a last chance, which is their concern that there’s no reason to believe that anything will be different.

One of the primary reasons your partner was wanting to go to couples counseling in the first place is that they thought that it could help to make the relationship workable for them.

You’ve Probably Known Of Couples That Went To Marriage Counseling And Wound Up Breaking Up. Is It Possible That Counseling Can Do You More Harm Than Good And Even Contribute To A Final Breakup?

Yes, that’s a valid fear. The key is to Pick A Counselor That’s A Relationship Saver, Not A Relationship Ender

If you and your partner, or just you, are open to couples counseling, I would highly recommend it with the RIGHT counselor.

When a relationship is in crisis, it’s in a very delicate state. Couples counseling is not neutral. It can help make the relationship better. If done incorrectly, it can push the relationship over the edge.

All couples counselors have their biases.

Some therapists think that if a relationship isn’t working, a person should get out. They’ll tend to guide an individual or couple in that direction. I call them relationship enders.

Other counselors, like myself, believe that, with rare exception, an individual and/or couple should do everything possible to learn and master the skills to make their relationship work and thus to save their relationship and often their family unit. We’re relationship savers.

Timing May be Critical For Me to Be Able to Save Your Relationship

In my experience, once a person has said they want to break up, the longer the distance from the time when they said they were willing to go to see a couple counselor and the time of that session, the greater the chance they will change their mind and refuse to go.

If your partner has already agreed to go to marriage counseling with you, as a Relationship Saver, I’ll do everything possible to give you that first session with me within 24 hours.

Tomorrow is often too late because by that time sometimes the leaving partner has changed their mind and refuses to participate in the session.

Joel Roberts, Former Prime Time Radio Host, writes:

“How do you think of two hours? A long commute? A quarter of some people's work day? The typical length of a Hollywood movie?

Fred Talisman, a licensed psychotherapist of over thirty one years, thinks of two hour in a totally unique way. It's the time it takes him to save, and revive a dying relationship. That's right. Two hours.

How does he do it? Well he's not the stereotypical therapist who sits back and says "uh huh" and watches couples get more and more polarized as they further talk themselves out of relationship by giving their laundry list of built up hurts and resentments.

If a couple is drowning , he's the lifeguard and he jumps in and does whatever it takes to save them, to buy them a second chance, a turning point.

I think he's a brilliant strategist. He uses his strategies to turn around years of pain. He uses them to defuse years of tension. He uses them to get the couple reconnected to the love and magic that brought them together in the first place. He demonstrates to them a path, a hope, a vision of the possibility of actually thriving together, and he does it in under two hours.

To me, Fred is The Relationship Wizard. His ability to save dying relationships are his brilliance and magic. He forged it out of the heartbreak he witnessed countless times in his early years as a traditionally trained marriage counselor experiencing over and over how that training was grossly inadequate in assisting him to save couples in crisis. He's a practical man. He knows from hard experience that by the time most couples go to a couples counselor one or both may be ready to end the relationship and the window of opportunity to save that relationship is now, or never.

When it comes to saving a relationship he's a bulldog. If there is a way to do it, he won't let go until he finds it. I think his strategies are a gift to couples.”

- Joel Roberts, Former Prime Time Host,
KABC Radio, Los Angeles, California

The Difference Between Relationship Saving Counseling and Relationship Ending Couples Counseling

First, it would help you to understand, in general, how couples counseling is conducted.

There tends to be two different ways that couples counseling is done.

The way couples counseling is often conducted, the therapist will get the couple to come in and talk about the problems and their upset feelings and each session they will have them talk about their feelings and problems and perhaps give them insights and understandings as to why they have those feelings and problems.

It’s a process that can go on for months and even longer.

That way of working takes a long time. Often, a person that’s ready to leave the relationship won’t stick around that long.

There’s a bigger problem with that way of working.

If a therapist gets a couple to talk about the problems and to continue to rehash those problems and upsets each session, without giving them tools and solutions, the couple and especially the person that’s on the verge of ending the relationship, will tend to get even more upset.

It’s a potentially destructive way of working and can wind up finalizing the breakup.

As an experienced relationship saving counselor I can usually get the bulk of the information I need to help you to save your relationship, within that first session and will also, during that 1st session, give you an overview of how specifically I can help you to get the relationship back on track.

Based on my experience I can say, if your partner is, in any way, open to giving you a last chance, your partner will leave that first session with you with a feeling of guarded hopefulness. They will see that with my help, that if you two follow through with what you’re learning from me that you really can make your relationship work.

In my experience, that first session with a couple, when a person has already told their partner they want to break up, is a very delicate, critical time.

As a Relationship Saver, I find that it’s useful to assume that the leaving partner is one step away from leaving for good. If I’m wrong, no harm. If I’m right, then I will proceed with a caution that can help that couple to have a turning point.

In most cases, that despite their insistence that the relationship is over for them, they are willing to come to that first session because they secretly hope there really is a way to save the relationship and they really do want to be able to justify to themselves giving their partner a last chance.

Most come to realize, by the end of the first session, that with my help, the relationship really can get better for them. They are now willing to give their partner a last chance and to come back for more sessions with me to learn how to make their relationship really work for both of them.

If You’re Partner Isn’t Willing to Go to Couples Counseling With You, Is Your Relationship Doomed?

It will probably be more efficient if your partner gets the couples counseling/coaching with you.

If they won’t go to counseling with you, definitely go yourself. You have a better chance of saving your relationship if you go by yourself to get my help to save your relationship than to not go at all.

In my 30+ years as a Couples Therapist, I have helped to save lots of relationships where only one person got couples counseling with me.

"Our relationship is so much better now, thanks in large part to Fred Talisman’s help.

Before we came to Fred, my wife and I were on the verge of divorce. Issues had become so complex and intertwined that we couldn't begin to sort through them.

Also, the emotions associated with the issues were preventing us from being able to work them out effectively. Trust had been breached as we "acted out" in various ways to relieve the stress.

With his help, our marriage has transformed into a place where we can manage our challenges in a way that brings us closer together, rather than pushing us apart.

Thank you, Fred, for helping us save and positively transform our marriage!"

- David and Christina Litman

Is It Too Late To Save Your Relationship?

I’ve helped save countless relationships where the individual or couple was getting my help as their last chance option to keep from breaking up. I’ve saved relationships where the couple thought they were beyond saving because of how bad things had gotten between them. Most of the relationships I’ve saved have had one or more of the following presenting problems.

Marriage Counseling to Fit Your Busy Schedules

I currently work with couples and individuals Monday through Saturday up until 10 PM. both in person and by phone.

Which of the following describes your relationship from your perspective or your partner’s:

You cheated on me. How can I get past the hurt and feeling of betrayal and should I? How can I ever trust you again?

I love you but I no longer feel in love with you.

I no longer feel attracted to you.

You’ve lied to me lots of times. I don’t know when you’re telling me the truth. I don’t trust you.

I feel worn out by all the bickering and fighting.

I’m sick and tired of all the verbal abuse, criticism, lack of respect and putdowns.

We have no way to work things out. We keep having the same fights over and over again. Nothing ever gets resolved.

I’ve tried everything to make this work and nothing has helped. This is my last hope.

We have very little in common and few common interests.

We’re already separated and it’s not getting any better.

I feel like whatever I do isn’t good enough for you. I feel like I’m in a no-win situation.

I fell in love with someone else. But, you and I have kids together. I’m confused. I don’t know what to do.

If you say or do the wrong thing, even once, it can undo all of the progress you’re making. Therefore its also critical to know what not to do.

When I’m helping you as an individual or a couple to save your relationship I’ll show you:

How you can understand why what you’ve been doing isn’t working and may actually be making things worse.

Why making claims or promises to your partner like “I’ve changed or I’ll never do it again” actually builds greater distrust, anger and/or resentment in your partner.

Why trying to prove your point actually works against you, pushes your partner further away and makes your partner get more upset.

Why getting things off your chest or trying to talk things out when one or both of you is upset is virtually guaranteed to make things worse, and what to do instead.

The trigger words that push your partner’s buttons and guarantee you’re headed for a fight.

I will show you what it takes to Save Your Relationship step by step including exactly what to say and do:

You’ll learn the single most effective communication skill you’ll need to save your relationship.

How to rebuild trust and get another chance if you’ve cheated on your partner.

How to get your partner to recommit to an exclusive monogamous relationship with you when your partner says they’ve fallen in love with someone else.

How to rebuild trust with your partner if your partner has already given you another chance and, you broke your word again.

How to rebuild trust when your partner feels that you’ve lied to them and they say they don’t know what to believe anymore.

How to get back the loving feelings when your partner is saying “I love you but I’m no longer in love with you.”

How you can put an end to mean, angry, hurtful communication. How to never again have another fight or argument, without having to give in. (If you follow my directions precisely, this ALWAYS works).

How you can get out your frustrations and upsets with NO consequences to the relationship and without hurting your partner’s feelings.

What to do when your partner is saying “I’m sick and tired of all the verbal abuse, criticism, lack of respect and putdowns.” How to be the positive, loving supportive partner that you want to be for them to to stay consistent in doing that.

What to do when your partner is saying “we have so little affection, I feel more like we’re roommates.” How to get back the affection, romance and passion. How to get back your emotional and physical intimacy together.

What to do if your partner is saying, “I’ve only been staying in the relationship for the kids but I’m no longer sure that’s best for them and its sure not working for me.” How to be more that just parents together and to also be a loving, happy couple together.

What to do when your partner is saying “we have no way to work things out. We keep having the same fights over and over again. Nothing ever gets resolved.” How to actually get things resolved to your mutual satisfaction.

What to do if your partner says “we have very little in common and few common interests.” How to start creating more common interests and to build from there.

How to get back together and make it work if you’re already separated and it’s not getting any better.

What to do if your partner is saying “I feel like whatever I do isn’t good enough for you. I feel like I’m in a no-win situation.” How to make them feel consistently accepted, appreciated and supported by you.

How to get back on track if your partner is saying “I don’t feel heard or understood or listened to by you.”

How to create a feeling of cooperation between the two of you when your partner says “I feel sad and mad because you turn on me, twist my words and attack me and make everything my fault.”

How to get your partner to try again when they say “I feel overwhelmed, numb and hopeless.”

What to do if your partner is saying “I get tense before you come home because I know you’ll find fault with me.” How to get back to looking forward to and enjoying spending time with each other.

How to rebuild trust and safety when you’ve told your partner that you were unhappy and wanted to split up. Then, you changed your mind and they now say they don’t know what to believe and they no longer feel safe in this relationship with you.

Why I’m so successful in saving relationships is in part of what I teach people to save their relationship. Here’s some of what you’re likely to learn from me to save your relationship:

How you can both reconnect to the love that brought you together in the first place.

How you can stop being reactive and being controlled by the other person’s negativity.

How you can turn around the negativity.

How you can be a better listener and make your partner feel listened to, understood and accepted.

How you can create mutual emotional support in your relationship.

How you can each stop sacrificing and making unwanted compromises and instead have the ability to work out agreements that work for both of you.

How you can stop being jealous and pushing your partner away with your jealousy.

How you can keep parents, in-laws, other relatives, friends and/or co-workers from having a negative impact on your relationship.

How you can prevent any (further) cheating in the relationship.

What you can do when you and your partner are very different from each other and have completely different interests.

The one way to speak to your partner that will cause your partner to open up to you, be more cooperative and positive and really hear what you have to say.

The absolute single best way to keep the positive momentum going after your partner gives you a second/next/LAST chance.

How to not blow your chances of saving your relationship by reverting back to your old ways of thinking, speaking and acting.

Why you and your partner have covered the same issues, frustrations and problems, over and over and over again, and yet some never seem to get them resolved and how to turn that around.

Why it’s almost always realistically possible to negotiate agreements with your partner that you both feel good about, and how to do that.

Why it’s NOT reasonable to expect your partner to cooperatively work things out with you right after you’ve told them what’s wrong with them.

Why you bringing up your hurts and resentment works against saving your relationship.

What should you do right now

If you don’t get the right kind of skills and strategies and put them into practice, it’s much more likely that you’ll lose your loved one and your ability to stay together as a family.

I wish you the best of luck. I’m ready to speak with you now.

Take care,

Fred Talisman MFT
Licensed Marriage and Family Counselor

310-305-7488 (west side)
310 374-0372 (south bay)
800 887-6464

P.S. Will I be able to help you stop your breakup?

That’s my goal. I have helped countless people save their relationships,. I get calls from people years later thanking me for those strategies and telling me how many happy years it’s been since I helped them get past their near breakup.

Many of those people, when they first called to get my help, were convinced that their relationship was beyond saving and that they were probably wasting their time even to try.

You know that what you’ve been doing to stop your breakup IS NOT WORKING.

All you can do is to do your best to save your relationship. However, doing your best is not only based on your depth and consistency of commitment to do your best.

It’s also based on getting the best professional help you can get to save your relationship.

PPS: If you still aren’t ready to get help, but you genuinely do want to save your relationship, Please click here for more information.

PPPS: If Your Partner is Out of Town On Business a lot or You’re Seperated and they live Out of the Area, Click Here for Successful Options to Save Your Relationship